Tuesday, September 6, 2011

My Dig Deep Button is Broken

Storm Warning • 13" x 15" • Dye on Cloth • ©2011 Jennifer Libby Fay

My Dig Deep Button is broken.

I didn’t realize it until I read Tracey Hewitt’s delightful blog post, It’s All about Sunsets. Seems Tracey’s Dig Deep Button is broken too.

Sometimes my Dig Deep Button breaks because of too much and sometimes too little. This time it’s a too much problem. There are so many things I want to experience, places I want to travel, people I want to meet, and art I want to make—I have a hard time saying no to all the wonderfulness. My schedule gets crowded, my time in the studio shrinks, I dig deeper and deeper, and wham, try as I might, nothing seems to work right.

Trust in Your Love • 12" x 12" • Dye on Cloth • ©2011 Jennifer Libby Fay

At times of high stress, you’ll probably find me reading a book—or a blog.

I read a lot yesterday, compulsively devouring information, processing it, putting it in the “I need to do this” file for future use—how to get more followers, more friends, higher scores, more sales…

I read Tracey’s post last night. As I looked at the beautiful sunsets and read Tracey’s words I could feel my shoulders relax. That person in my head who has been yelling, “Come On! Come On! Come On! Go! Go! Go!” for what seems like months now, actually took a step back.

In the silence that followed I was shocked into the present moment and realized it is time to rebalance again, time to answer Tracey’s question, “What resets your Dig Deep Button?” for myself.

This morning I cancelled a few appointments giving myself time to accomplish some things that were really only important to me. I started to feel better. I looked at the stream of information coming my way a little differently—I let a lot of it just go by…and then I spied a post by Chris Brogan called, Say No Faster.

Say no faster? Say no with love and respect and gratitude?—that could mend my Dig Deep Button pretty fast.

Here is Chris’ “Say No Faster” Resolution

Repeat after me:
From now on, I resolve to say no faster. I will say no with grace and poise and kindness, but I will say no. Even when something takes “just five minutes,” if I don’t have the time or don’t feel compelled to sway from the course of my own commitments, I will say no with kindness, and wish the person well. Saying no faster is much better than not responding, and much better than the guilt I will feel if I say yes, but can’t deliver.

I am grateful to Tracey and Chris for sharing their vulnerability and inspiration. I predict that after a few days of finding the beauty in my surroundings and saying no faster I'll be ready to dig deep again.


  1. Note: Tracey tried to leave this comment here, but, as she says, had trouble with blogger comments. I love her comment and wanted it with the post so I am posting it here:

    Hi Jennifer...Just tried commenting on this beautiful post, and had much frustration with the comment box...so I've pasted it here (Facebook) - A little wordy, but very heartfelt...Jennifer! I'm sitting here grasping for the right words to express the torrent of beautiful emotions I felt as I read your post here. What I really want to do is give you a big, tearful hug.
    First, there was relief that you (ie someone else!) found resonance with the concept of a broken Dig Deep Button. Then I was humbled that you read my post and felt touched by it. Along with a kind of warm fuzzy feeling that in some small way I'd helped someone else...then, reading Chris' words "I will say no with grace and poise and kindness, but I will say no" was the perfect medicine. Such sage and sensible advice - I'm off to write it on my noticeboard right away!
    Thank you so very much for sharing that.
    Like you, I cleared the schedule - 'flexed off' - lay on the grass in the sun and watched the clouds for a bit, then journalled for a bit. Self care is so easy to forget when that voice is urging all the while...here's to the both of us restoring function to our buttons soon!
    Take care of you. and thanks once again.

  2. Jennifer--I read your post this morning, and I can't tell you how relieved I was to find that there were not one but two souls feeling the same way as me. My "dig deep" button needs resetting in a major way--so perhaps this is the beginning of a movement--a movement towards relaxation and kind but honest responses, and a letting go of compulsion (my shoulders say 'amen' to that!).

  3. Hi Jennifer
    I'm so happy that I'm stopping over to see you on Fall Equinox...the balance point for calm and harmony and gracefully saying no to the complications of the long summer of energy rising.
    Now we get to quiet down and turn our Art/Life toward what nurtures us as we open to recieve...we've given enough these past six months...time for what the Dalai Lama calls "wise selfish".
    I wish you a lovely time of it.